My "Ah-ha" Moment(s)

As human beings, we often look to fit in, belong, and feel satisfied.  Two-hundred days per year, I'm a school counselor often helping budding adolescents solve their problems and learn to take school seriously.  

Talk about wanting to fit in!  Dr. William Glasser, a renowned psychologist, founded two major theories that I subscribe to when working with kids.  Glasser's "Choice Theory" asserts that human beings behave to satisfy 5 basic needs.  One of those basic needs is "belonging".   Who doesn't want to feel like they fit in?  Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs addresses this as well.

In my work as a Holistic Health and Nutrition Coach, these issues come up with clients all the time.  This is why I chose the training I did.  It focuses on working with "the whole client".  I talk with clients about who they are as human beings before we ever address who they are as eaters.  

When I think about who I am as an eater, I zone in on one need:  I love eating because it gives me immediate satisfaction.  I think about what will taste good and what will feel good going down (i.e. crunchy food, cool food in the summer, savory food, etc.).  Never more has this come to my conscious than the last month.

  I've shared in a previous post that my family is experimenting with the GAPS Diet this summer.  In a nutshell, the first phase is a bone broth fast where you help repair your gut lining.  As you move into the next phases, you introduce foods back into your diet while you stay away from sugar, processed foods, and grains.  I will also remind you that my children are nine and seven years old.  They have opinions.  Needs.  

However, we have stayed the course. Well, I'd say 99% of the time.  No one is perfect, but persistence is paying off as it's rewarding to see our kids articulate they can not have something (like sweets) because it's not healthy for them.  But being a good role model is not easy.  I have needs.  Opinions!!  And so I arrive at what I came here to share with you:

I found myself looking through the cabinet a few days ago at my "witching hour" of 7:30 p.m. looking for something to snack on.  I could not find the bags of chip-like treats from Trader Joe's we used to keep.  No protein bars.  Nothing sweet!  Anywhere!!!  I wasn't terribly hungry.  Probably was just bored looking back, however eating sounded good.  The thought FELT good.  While I wanted to feel satisfied, I also had to make sure what I put in my body was something my kids, who seem to be programmed with a chip in their brain to flock to me at the crack of the cabinet door, would approve as "on our diet".  So I grabbed a small handful of almonds and took a swig of water, shut the door, and it hit me.  Removing the "stuff" that we were eliminating from our diets made me think and remember:

I have goals I'm trying to meet:  I want to lean out, lose some weight, and perform better at the gym.

If I want to meet my goals and continue to support the purpose of my wife and kids being on the GAPS Diet, THEN I DO NOT NEED TO ALWAYS EAT FOR THE ENJOYMENT OF EATING.

SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO EAT JUST BECAUSE THE FOOD NOURISHES OUR BODIES.

I HAVE TO KEEP CHANGING MY RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD.  This is not always easy, fun, and sometimes it's just downright difficult. But......just realizing this has made a huge difference in my life.  It's brought to my conscious something that sounds so simple.  

And so today, I woke up, went for a short run on my off day from my Crossfit training, made an omelette with sausage from our farmer, onions and fresh kale we bought Friday at a local farmer's market.  After some errands, I came home and it hit me as I finished my lunch:  one slice of kielbasa sausage from our local farmer, cucumber slices, and some hummus from Trader Joe's.  Months ago, years ago when I was 279 lbs., this would merely have been my appetizer, my warm up course.  Today, not only was it tasty, but the portion size completely filled me up.  As I type an hour later, my stomach is not asking me for more food, and the thought of eating does not appeal to me to eat more.  

So I offer a few pieces of advice:

Get in touch with your needs as a human being.

Tap into your needs as an eater.

Try to identify what your relationship(s) is/are with food.

Establish long/short term health goals for yourself, and make them manageable.

Remove the food you consider "toxic" from your home if you can not mange portions.

Be your kids' dietary role model.

  

Keep in mind that it is ok to sometimes eat for sustenance.  Not every meal has to provide you with immediate joy and satisfaction.

By changing your eating habits, be open to the idea that new foods can eventually bring you the joy that old, more "toxic" foods did.

  

My journey with food and fitness is no different than anyone else's.  It has had peaks and valleys.  Still does.  It's not always easy.  I have days when I want to gorge myself with pizza, wings, and chips.  I fight cravings.  But I immerse myself in information, accountability, and I want to be as healthy as I can.  My family has been my food accountability system most recently.  Stay tuned for an upcoming post on my latest fitness accountability partner in an upcoming post.  

P.S.  One more piece of advice:  Find an accountability partner.  It works.  

CONTEST/GIVEAWAY!

Time to give something away!

Made veggie stir fry yesterday with the following:  

zucchini

onion

celery

swiss chard

carrot

garlic

Trader Joe's Reduced Sodium Soy Sauce

and.......

one mystery noodle ingredient that is gluten free, wheat free, soy free, and zero calories.  

Guess what this noodle is made from, and I will ship some to you directly.  Just do the following:

1.  Click on this link to my Facebook page and give the page a LIKE.

2.  Post your answer underneath the same picture that you will find there.  

If a tie exists, I will randomly select one winner and announce in the next 48 hours.  

May Your Skin Be with You

For two-hundred days a year I work around budding adolescents who are more plugged in, connected, and mobile than one could ever imagine back in 1984.  Back when I cared more about fitting in, I remember a trip to the dermatologist, an old, overweight man in a long white coat with a helmet light that looked like it belonged here....

I remember leaving school to go see this clown whose diligent bedside manner left me with more than acne scars when he proclaimed in his best James Earl Jones voice to my mother in what sounded like slow motion.....

"Yoooooooooooooooouuuuuurrrr soooooooooooooooooooon haaaaaas SEVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERE AAAAAAAAAAACNEEEEEEEEEEEE."

I was prescribed Accutane.  It dried me out, made my nose bleed, and gave me headaches.  Great.

Nothing like returning to my locker at age 15 just wanting to fit in with SEVERE ACNE and then having to return to see Darth Dumbass Bedside Manner and all he ever asked me was, "So....seen any good movies lately?"  

"No asshole.  Seen any good, juicy boils lately?!?"  

I didn't.  But I always wanted to. 

It's memories like these that come back as I sit here attacked by different, evil skin attacking dots.....

Really???!?!  ME??!?!!  CHICKEN POX??!??!  I eat healthy.  I exercise vigorously 5-6x/week.  I eat more veggies than the average person.  I'm a damn health coach for Luke Skywalker sakes!!!  

Here we go again.  Twenty-five years later and it's time to put more scars on top of the ones that healed back when jean jackets and tape deck Walkmen ruled the world and MTV played music.  

It's been almost a week.  The itching has subsided.  The pox are crusting over, and now I look to fight the good fight.  

I refuse to scar this time!  I will NOOOOOOOOOOOOOT HAAAAAAAAAAVVVVVE SEVEEEEEEEEEEEEERE SCAAAAAAAAAAARRIIIIIINNNNNNG!

So what am I doing?  

Using Oatmeal Baths:  Oatmeal has anti-inflammatory properties that helps soothe inflamed skin.  It's been huge to say the least.  

Drinking Plenty of Water Especially Coconut Water:  The nutrients in coconut water help repair damaged skin caused by chicken pox. 

Ramping Up My Leafy Greens and Fruits That are Good for the Skin:  Leafy green have beta-carotene, an anti-oxidant that helps repair the skin, and the nutrients in certain fruits can act the same.

Here's my meal plan the past several days thanks to my health coaching colleague, Teresa!

Ingredients:

-4 apples

-1 cucumber

-handful of fresh kale

Run the above through my juicer

Add the juice into my blender and mix in the following:

-1 avocado

-3 cups of blueberries

-coconut water

-Protein Powder (optional, but I use SunWarrior)

Oh.........and I have seen some good movies lately as I have nothing better to do with so much time, but I'd never let that crusty, antiquated dermatologist know that!

The Real Killer

When I was a kid, I used to be afraid this guy was going to get me

The reality is....

 THIS is going to get me.

Find out how......

Focused!

I believe I've found my focus. Here's why:

Got my body fat measured at The National Institute of Fitness and Sport:  28.9%

My family started The G.A.P.S. Diet, a modified approach.  The kids have been doing great, and it's much easier to be mindful of my food when the whole family is invested.  

I've zeroed on my portion control and being mindful of what a full portion of something should be.  

I'm trying to slow down when I eat.  Never easy.

I've stared another blog with a close friend of mine as an accountability measure with working out.  

In three months, I'll return to the Bod Pod and get my body fat retested.  

FOCUSED!

The 2 Step

I'm doing a 2 step this week, but I'm no dancer.

Step 1:  I'm starting the GAPS Diet with my family.  We need a good cleanse, and we are also searching for a holistic way to treat our daughter's skin issues.  I also need a jumpstart for buckling down on my diet as I enter the summer months.  (I'm a school counselor during the day and have a fair amount of time in the summer.  This is when I refocus my dietary habits as I have more time to plan, cook, etc.)  

For more information, here is part 1 of 7 of a GAPS Diet lecture.

Step 2:  I'm going to sit in this on Saturday:

I'm not Mork from Ork summoning Orson, however I miss those good wholesome shows!  I want to get my body fat composition measured and this is the best way I've heard to do it.  It's a Bod Pod, and I'll be heading to the National Institute for Fitness and Sport here in Indianapolis.  As I tell my health coaching clients, "I am your accountability measure."  Well, I need my own accountability as I want to lean out and lower my body fat.  I figure this is the first step.

Nanu Nanu!

The Catalyst

It will be two years this summer since I found Crossfit.  And it goes without saying that Crossfit is the catalyst for the progress I've made with my overall health.  Because Crossfit is "constantly varied functional movement done at high intensity" and "specializes in not specializing," there is always a dog to chase.  In the past two years I've gotten the following from Crossfit:

--A community of like-minded friends, acquaintances, and colleagues with whom to surround myself. 

--A clearer understanding about how to fuel my body for optimal health.

--The desire to become a Certified Health and Nutrition Coach.  

--My Level 1 Crossfit Coaching Certification.

--More strength than I've ever had in my life.

--Pull ups.

--The belief that I can be prepared for anything at any time no matter if it's physical, mental, or emotional.

--A sport where I can compete.

Just yesterday, I competed in my second Crossfit Total Competition.  This involves the following foundational lifts:  The Deadlift; The Strict Press; and the Back Squat.  You can read about the rules here, but essentially you get three chances at each lift.  Your "TOTAL" is the sum of all three of your lifts.

If you asked anyone who knew me growing up if they could see me actually lifting weights, they may keel over in an exhaustion of laughter.  Nonetheless, at age 40, I love it.  However, at 6'2" tall and weighing in at 252 lbs., a part of my brain states that I should be stronger than I am.  Yet, the rational side says, "Chill dude.  It's not about where you are.  It's about where you want to go."  With that being said, here's my point.

A year ago I posted the following numbers for my Crossfit Total:

Back Squat:  300 lbs.

Strict Press:  145 lbs.

Deadlift:  375 lbs.

Crossfit Total = 820

Yesterday, a year later.....

Back Squat: 330 lbs.

Strict Press:  175 lbs.

Deadlift:  420 lbs.

Crossfit Total = 925

Here is my scorecard....

So I'm 40 years old.  I weigh 252 lbs.  I've maintained my weight over the past year.  I'm stronger than I've ever been, and my endurance is pretty good, I think, for a guy my size.  But after yesterday's competition, I was able to articulate what I've been thinking about for some time:

My New Goals

--I want to decrease my body fat percentage.

--I want to keep getting stronger.

--I want to increase my endurance.

There are many byproducts that will become from these, and the above three goals are what I've come to believe will aide me in being the healthiest me possible.

How am I going to do all of that?  Great question!  Stay tuned for a few upcoming posts as I will share the steps I am taking.  

Here's a clue one of those steps...